My cousin April posted on her blog about her desire to be a good mother and wife. I responded, but there is more I want to say. Lately I have been trying to figure out this new stage in life - very different than any before. I decided to sell Lia Sophia and Mary Kay to give me something to do for myself. Well, I have decided not to sell Mary Kay. I started for several reasons, and I am quiting for several reasons.
Starting: I started mostly because I really liked my recruiter, and because of who my director would be (her sister). My director, Holly, was in a similar situation as me when she started. She had post-pardom depression and needed something other than being a mom to give her meaning to life - a reason to get dressed every day, etc. She didn't even wear make-up before she started, but she did it anyway. As soon as she started she was unstopable. She lost her depression immediately and became successful. She has only been selling Mary Kay for two years and got her first pink Cadillac when I signed up!! This means she can teach me how to be that successful I thought! Ben says my eyes got too big - and he was right. I signed up dreaming about making tons of money and being really successful. I miss getting a feeling of success from working hard in school. Holly talked about being a stay-at-home mom and making lots of money at the same time, and I really wanted that.
Quiting: After spending hours at a booth in the fair and making tons of phone calls I was pretty discouraged that four out of six appointments re-scheduled, and then re-scheduled again. I also realized after a while that Holly must work a lot of hours to accomplish what she did. When I told her that I wanted to work a max of 10 hrs per week she just said that my hours and goals would probably change as time went on. Once she said that time is money, and I thought to myself, "that isn't at all how I see life for me." I realized that her proiorities weren't the same as mine. I have now realized that it takes a lot of time and organization to be successful at Mary Kay, and that isn't something I have to give to it. I am still going to sell Lia Sophia, but I don't mind it cause it is a lot easier to sell - a lot less preporation, and I feel it is easier to do as a hobby than Mary Kay. I am sad that we took a financial loss for me to find this out - I thought having a lot of inventory would be motivating for me, but I have learned that I am not motivated by feeling that I HAVE to do it. Luckily Mary Kay does buy back the products with just a 10% loss.
Anyways basically what I learned is that being a mom is what is most important - much more important than having nice things and massages right now (one of the main things I wanted to afford is a massage every other week). I truely charish each moment with Daniel. I really love spending as much time with him as possible. I am sad to admit that I thought I needed so much more
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Good for you! And I've totally been there. What I found is I won't work unless it's something I truly love. I've taught piano and I've done photography and those are the main things that I've found work for me as a SAHM with a business. The beauty of photography is I can do trades too. In fact I've set up a trade for 4 massages in exchange for a photo shoot. I've gotten plumbing done, sewing for my kids, massages, babysitting, all from just trading services.
What about personal training? Could you do something with that? Maybe just do training sessions when Ben is home and do it outside a gym? Teach people one on one how to exercise/eat right without paying for a gym too. I'd totally trade for something like that. Heck, I'd pay for it. And if you're good, you'll slowly build a reputation and get clients through word of mouth.
Love you! Can't wait to see you in a couple weeks!
I understand how you feel...those are the same thoughts I had when I went to sell pest control. Way to have the courage to cut losses and move on. I don't know how it will be to be a stay-at-home mom, but it sounds like you're doing what's best for your family. Best of luck in what you do!
Being a stay at home mom has the greatest rewards in the eternal perspective I think. :) You may not see it now but you will. I just caught up on your blog and Daniel is sure getting to be a big boy:) How fun! See you soon.
Love you Teresa. As your friend, all i want is for you to be happy. We both know that life happens and we experience the good and the bad...they both give us experience to build upon and become smarter and stronger. You're just learning what is most important to you and I am so happy for you. You're amazing and im so happy to call you my friend. Love you darlin' and I wish we lived closer to one another! Tell little Daniel and Boo Boo hello for me!!!
I've been thinking about this some more. That was the hardest time for me too. A new mom with 1 baby and nothing to do. I ended up getting involved with playgroups and making some good friends that we hung out with more than just playgroup day. I'd take Nathan to the park pretty often and on walks. I had to make the switch from someone who met people through work, to someone who met other moms in the same stage of life as me. I'm still good friends with most of those people I met at the time.
Wow, Its been a while since we've last talked! I'm sorry to hear that you had to have surgery, and that you were having difficulties with post-pardom depression. I hope things are going alot better and smoother for you now.
Your little boy is SO cute! He is a really good mix between you and your hubby! How is Rexburg treating you? Is that where you are now?
Well, I hope life is treating you much better now, and I hope to talk with you again soon!
I would love to personal train! When I did it at school I enjoyed it so much it was a stress relief from school for me. I really cared for all of my clients, and I am still in contact with a couple of them. It is just hard to go for that job right now when I still look pregnant when I am not. I have really been trying hard to loose the weight, but things just keep getting in the way - mostly sickness and my surgery. I was really on a role right before my surgery. It took a few weeks to recovery completely. Then I started going at it again last week - I biked 11 miles one day, walk/jogged 3 miles another, did a work-out video the next, and biked 6 miles another along with push-ups and sit-ups. Then I got a cold for a few days, but I am glad to say that I got over it quickly, and today I biked 6.5 mi with some sit-ups and push-ups. I didn't push it too hard because I am still a bit sick.
I just hope this winter isn't like the last. Last winter I got sick like every two or three weeks! It is hard to get serious about exercise when you get cut off that often. I still exercised whenever I could, but when I have to stop that often, not a lot of weight loss occurs.
Ben and I are planning on building a house in a year or two, and we were thinking of having a small gym in one of the rooms(probably like 700 sq ft or so) and have my own business personal training at home and charge according to people's financial situation. That would be a good business to do trading.
You know what? Things change. And with every change you have to try to adjust. And there's nothing like a baby to turn your life upside down! Looks like you are already figuring out what does work for you and what doesn't. I know I'm still working on figuring out that in my life and it's still just me and Stan--and we've been married for 1 1/2 years. It doesn't hurt to try new things at all!
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